What stresses you is different from what stresses your neighbour. But the recipe for stress is the same for everyone.
Here are the ingredients:
- SENSE OF CONTROL REDUCED
- PERSONALITY UNDER THREAT
|The ingredients of stress||Feelings||Exemple||Solutions|
OF CONTROL REDUCED
|You feel that you have little or no control of the situation.||I would like to be in Mr. Beaulieu’s math class because I understand when he explains.||Solution 1: I ask the principal to change my class.|
Solution 2: I think of all my friends in the current class who can help me understand.
|PERSONALITY UNDER THREAT||Your skills and self-esteem are put to the test. You doubt yourself or your abilities.||You failed the swimming test and are scared that you don’t have the ability to take it again.||Solution 1: I will take two more lessons before trying again.|
Solution 2: I’ll ask the coach what I can do to improve.
|INSTABILITY||Something completely unexpected happens or you can’t know in advance what is going to happen.||You just learned that your parents are separating.||Solution 1: I’ll get help from a counsellor.|
Solution 2: I’ll talk about it with my best friend.
|NOVELTY||Something new happens that you have never experienced before.||You change schools and you don’t know anyone in the new one.||Solution 1: I’ll sit with classmates in the cafeteria.|
Solution 2: I’ll sign up for lunch-hour activities.
The ingredients of stress are additive. The more elements present in a situation, the more stressful it is.
It’s your turn! Download the tool to help you discover the ingredients.
Taken from Comment favoriser l’expression des émotions de l’adolescent (How to encourage a teenager to express emotions), Fondation Jasmin Roy.